I feel you, trying to meet a great partner can be exhausting, especially if you feel like you keep going on bad first dates over and over again! But what if you could never go on a bad first date again? Wouldn’t that make the whole dating process way easier and more enjoyable? Well… that’s actually possible!

Here are a few tips so that you never go on a bad first date again:

Tip 1. Make sure that your definition of a great first date makes sense with the fact that it’s just the first date

Think about your definition of a great first date and of a bad first date for a minute. Basically, how do you decide if it was a great first date or a bad one?

For me, a great first date is a date where I had a great time getting to know someone, where we had great conversation and where I left thinking I’d like to go on a 2nd date with that person to keep learning more about them to see if this could be a match. Still for me, a bad first date is a date where the person is obnoxious or where I’m bored. For me anything in between is just not a match. It doesn’t mean it was a bad date, it just means that I don’t want a 2nd date with that person.

So basically, make sure that your expectations for this first date make sense with the fact that it’s just the first date and that you don’t know the person yet. For example, if you go to this first date thinking “I look forward to getting to know someone new” instead of thinking “I really hope he’s my next boyfriend”, this will take away a lot of pressure for this date and it will be way easier for you to really get to know that person and see if this could be a match for you. This will also help you bring more happiness and excitement in your dating life, feel more confident on this first date and reduce the fear of rejection.

Tip 2. Try not to think too much about this person before you actually meet them

Here’s why: when we start thinking too much about someone we don’t really know yet, we start picturing them as we want them to be instead of as they really are. So we start thinking about them as this “perfect man” we want to meet and we create unrealistic expectations for this person or even for this date. And so very often we’re disappointed and think it’s not a match just because the reality doesn’t match what we thought this person would be like. Unfortunately we might miss the opportunity to really get to know someone who could be a great match for us just because they don’t “match” the “perfect” image that we created in our mind.

Tip 3. Remember that your past relationships / dating experiences don’t define your future ones.

Remember that your past relationships / dating experiences don’t define your future ones. Only you get to make that decision. So when you go on a first date, remember that the person in front of you might be very different from the men you dated before. I know this is not easy but as much as possible try to go to this first date with an open mind and leaving the insecurities you might have from your past relationships behind.

Tip 4. Treat each “not so great” first date as a learning experience.

For example, what did you learn in terms of what you’re looking for and of what you don’t want? How is this “not so great” date going to help you get closer to finding the type of partner and relationship you want?

Tip 5. Really filter people’s profiles online before deciding to go on a date with them (if you use online dating)

Does their profile make sense for someone that would be looking for a relationship (in which age range and miles range are they looking for someone? Did they take the time to really fill out their profile? What do they say in their bio?…). Also, what’s the “tone” of their profile? Do they seem to be a pretty positive or negative person? Do you have common interests? Do they only have 1 (really nice!) picture on their profile or do they have several ones in different settings (maybe with friends, or doing an activity,…)?

Tip 6. Pick coffee instead of dinner

For first dates, I personally love coffee shops!! It’s easy to talk and if you’re bored and can see right away that it won’t be a match for you then you can easily leave after 45 minutes without being rude. And if you guys are having an amazing time, you can have another coffee, grab some ice cream or go for a walk for example.

Most importantly, always remember that you deserve (and can find) someone that will be an amazing partner for you in a successful long-term relationship. If you’re ready to completely transform your dating life and start attracting the type of man and relationship you’re looking for, click here to learn how I can help you

© Copyright Adeline Bréon® 2018 – All Rights Reserved – Reproduction strictly prohibited

Tip 1. Make sure that your definition of a great first date makes sense with the fact that it’s just the first date

Think about your definition of a great first date and of a bad first date for a minute. Basically, how do you decide if it was a great first date or a bad one?

For me, a great first date is a date where I had a great time getting to know someone, where we had great conversation and where I left thinking I’d like to go on a 2nd date with that person to keep learning more about them to see if this could be a match. Still for me, a bad first date is a date where the person is obnoxious or where I’m bored. For me anything in between is just not a match. It doesn’t mean it was a bad date, it just means that I don’t want a 2nd date with that person.

So basically, make sure that your expectations for this first date make sense with the fact that it’s just the first date and that you don’t know the person yet. For example, if you go to this first date thinking “I look forward to getting to know someone new” instead of thinking “I really hope he’s my next boyfriend”, this will take away a lot of pressure for this date and it will be way easier for you to really get to know that person and see if this could be a match for you. This will also help you bring more happiness and excitement in your dating life, feel more confident on this first date and reduce the fear of rejection.

Tip 2. Try not to think too much about this person before you actually meet them

Here’s why: when we start thinking too much about someone we don’t really know yet, we start picturing them as we want them to be instead of as they really are. So we start thinking about them as this “perfect man” we want to meet and we create unrealistic expectations for this person or even for this date. And so very often we’re disappointed and think it’s not a match just because the reality doesn’t match what we thought this person would be like. Unfortunately we might miss the opportunity to really get to know someone who could be a great match for us just because they don’t “match” the “perfect” image that we created in our mind.

Tip 3. Remember that your past relationships / dating experiences don’t define your future ones.

Remember that your past relationships / dating experiences don’t define your future ones. Only you get to make that decision. So when you go on a first date, remember that the person in front of you might be very different from the men you dated before. I know this is not easy but as much as possible try to go to this first date with an open mind and leaving the insecurities you might have from your past relationships behind.

Tip 4. Treat each “not so great” first date as a learning experience.

For example, what did you learn in terms of what you’re looking for and of what you don’t want? How is this “not so great” first date going to help you get closer to finding the type of partner and relationship you want?

Tip 5. Really filter people’s profiles online before deciding to go on a date with them (if you use online dating)

Does their profile make sense for someone that would be looking for a relationship (in which age range and miles range are they looking for someone? Did they take the time to really fill out their profile? What do they say in their bio?…). Also, what’s the “tone” of their profile? Do they seem to be a pretty positive or negative person? Do you have common interests? Do they only have 1 (really nice!) picture on their profile or do they have several ones in different settings (maybe with friends, or doing an activity,…)?

Tip 6. Pick coffee instead of dinner

For first dates, I personally love coffee shops!! It’s easy to talk and if you’re bored and can see right away that it won’t be a match for you then you can easily leave after 45 minutes without being rude. And if you guys are having an amazing time, you can have another coffee, grab some ice cream or go for a walk for example.

Most importantly, always remember that you deserve (and can find) someone that will be an amazing partner for you in a successful long-term relationship. If you’re ready to completely transform your dating life and start attracting the type of man and relationship you’re looking for, click here to learn how I can help you

© Copyright Adeline Bréon® 2018 – All Rights Reserved – Reproduction strictly prohibited

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Hey There, I’m Adeline Bréon!

As a Dating / Relationship Coach & NLP Master Practitioner, I help women break their dating and relationship patterns and learn how to date with true self-confidence and self-love so that they can start attracting amazing men and fulfilling relationships.

If you’re ready to completely transform your dating life and start attracting the type of partner and relationship you want, click here to learn how I can help you

I can’t wait to help you transform your love life!

XOXO,

Adeline.

Hey There, I’m Adeline Bréon!

As a Dating / Relationship Coach & NLP Master Practitioner, I help women break their dating and relationship patterns and learn how to date with true self-confidence and self-love so that they can start attracting amazing men and fulfilling relationships.

If you’re ready to completely transform your dating life and start attracting the type of partner and relationship you want, click here to learn how I can help you

I can’t wait to help you transform your love life!

XOXO,

Adeline.

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